The Conversation and Meeting Our 1st.

I wanted to sit my significant other down and explain to him, that as much fun as the flirty teasing conversations about a threesome were during sex, it was just a tease. We hadn't been seriously looking for another girl to experience this with. I really wanted to either pick up a girl and bring her home for a night of fun, or I wanted him to pick up a girl. Easier Said than Done. His main concerns have always been with me. He wanted to make sure it was me wanting this. He wanted to make sure I was comfortable with this... I always appreciated this, which made it easier for me to be more open with him and know he wouldnt take advantage of the situation.

Being that we are in a committed relationship, it is hard to find a girl who would be interested in this. Also, if I was a single girl who wanted to join in, I can understand a bit of hesitation. How do you know these people are normal etc...? But at the same time, it wasn't like I was going to go ask one of my girl friends. "Umm... so... Im bi and wanting a threesome, want to join?" HAHA, doesn't work that way. One night I tried going to a Lesbian Club with my significant other. We had a couple drinks but thats all that pretty much happened. All the girls in the club were there with friends...or meeting people. If I was a lesbian in that bar I most likely would have made a joke about the couple in the corner looking for a threesome. HAHA!
After a little bit we decided the best way to find people who are looking for what we are, would be to look online. People are more open ( as you can tell ) to open up online without the feeling of rejection.
We decided to go ahead and spend the time and money, as other do on E-Harmony and other sites like that, to find a "sexual friend" thru some websites ( which I will not give here ). After a month of emailing people, we almost gave up, and then...all of a sudden we were swamped with emails from single girls in our area looking for a good time. Granted most were over weight and we were not interested, but it was nice to finally get some feed back.
We began talking to a girl named Kara for about a week. We went over everything. I kept asking her questions of what her likes and dislikes were, if she was into anal, if she had a car, if she could travel to us, if she felt comfortable in us hosting etc. Kara seemed to be interested in me a lot, and my significant other felt left out. When I addressed this with Kara, she stated she didnt want to talk to him as much because she didnt want me to develop jealousy. I stated to her that if and when she did flirt with him, I would get turned on. This was the first time I ever told another girl that she turned me on, to which she got excited from.
I also discussed with Kara that this would be the first time I was sexual with another woman. I had made out with tons of girls and always used alcohol as an excuse to kiss my girlfriends back home. When I moved to LA I made it a point to make sure everyone knew I was BI-curious ( since i hadnt had sex with a girl yet ). I was tired of keeping that part of me in. So when Kara would talk about wanting to suck on my tits, it was a new exciting experience. And one I was getting used to fast. I was excited to see how things would start and how much she might like me........
When we all finally decided to meet, we used Starbucks as our meet place. I thought it would be a better idea since its so public in general... and no one questions a group of friends having a cup of coffee...hehehe...
I sat there at the table, my significant other sitting across from me, about to meet another girl to be sexual with. I got a little nervous, but so excited to finally have this all happen. Kara walked from around the corner.. She was tall (6ft), mixed(blk&white), and so adorable in the spring summer dress she was wearing. Something to get out of easily it looked like. She went straight inside for a coffee, as my guy and I sat there deciding if we were both comfortable still. And then she came and sat with us where we began talking and getting to know each other. We found out she had done this before with another couple. This made us both very comfortable... just knowing one of us would be more experienced with this...After talking for a bit, we all decided it was time to go. We told her we would call her after we had talked privately, which I think is the best decision. You can go back and really decide if this is what you want to do, instead of jumping into something you are not ready for.