Are you ever too Sleepy?

I find it hard sometimes to have sex in the middle of the week... but this also scares me. I am in my mid 20s and too tired. I dont have children, but I do have two dogs...so.. but by the time I get home from work... make a yummy dinner for both of us, wash the dishes, clean up... etc... Im a little tired... I tend to find myself in a shower with a vibrator to wake myself up and get me in the mood... sometimes I actually get off, which is a big no no... I want to be able to please him..and if I get off, and im tired already... Im only going to pass out...

Is this a common issue for people? I am assuming it is.... too tired from working all day to actually get involved in the act of fucking.... I dont mind laying there and getting eaten out... but... I like to be in charge and really take charge in sex... I try to show him up basically ... hahaha....

If you have any suggestions in staying awake after work.... let me know.  ;-)
Maybe its just the weather... it has been gloomy lately... that usually makes me a sleepy bear... ;-)

Just one of many....

I want to come home after work on day...walk down my drive way and past my annoying rude lesbian/couple neighbors who happen to share our bedroom wall with us. Open the white picket fence gate that leads to my garden of vegetables and flowers, pass those and walk up the 4 steps to my front door.When I approach the front door, hear muffled noises inside. As I put my key in the lock I realize the noise I am hearing is of a girl ... As I open the door and peek my head into the dark room, I realize no one is there to greet me... not even my doggies, who sound to be locked up in the bathroom from their barks. As I struggle to find a light, I realize that the muffled noise is coming from the bedroom and its only gotten louder since entering the home. It sounded like it would be coming from the bedroom.  I turn on the light. I notice a black leather purse with silver lining sitting on the side table where I usually put my purse at. I place my purse on the floor next to the table instead. I put my computer bag down as well. I take off my hot pink high heels, which I bought off of Venice Beach, and tip toe to the bedroom, so no one hears me. As I get close to the bedroom, I notice that the door is cracked open... I peek through and notice something wild taking place on the bed that me and my guy share.

I notice a hot brunette riding my guy... her legs on either side of him... her arms stretched out in front of her, her hands pressed up against the wall for balance... her pussy wet and rocking back and forth on his throbbing hot cock. Her moans were only louder now, now that I was watching her fuck him from outside the door. I dont think they heard me approaching. I slightly open the door a little more for a better view. Just as I was doing that.. she leaned down and shoved her huge tits in his face. Squeezing them together on his face, as his body enjoyed hers. His hands were tightly holding on to her ass... his fingers slightly touching her ass hole... grabbing her ass tightly. I can see his cock sticking out of her tight little pussy at this angle...as she moves up and down on it... her chest hanging in front of his face and her hands pressed against the wall, using it this time as leverage... She moved up and down.. each time coming down and staying there, moving back and forth before moving up again... really making sure it gets in deep...

As I watch all this, I notice that I am getting wet and feeling the urge to join in. I walk away from the door and  go into the other room, where I begin to disrobe.... All I would be wearing on my size 8 waist were cream colored white lace panties...

I walk over to the bedroom...I see they have switched positions now and he is having his fun...
I enter the room, he turns his head to look at the door... to his surprise... it is me, standing nearly nude.

I walk over to the Cali. King size bed, which has blankets tossed everywhere on it. I climb on top and start kissing him, this whole time, his cock is still deep inside of her, not moving..I whisper, "keep going", as I lay down beside her... I reach over and place my hands on her chest and begin to play with her nipples... I lick them a little at first...my pink and white french fake nails flick her nipple a little, at which time they become increasingly harder... I begin licking and sucking on her now... reaching down and playing with her pussy while my Guy pleases her from the inside. Her head cocked back from enjoyment. My guy pulls her down a little and moves me on top of her... He slowly sticks it back in her... I lean down and kiss her while he fucks her.... getting my pussy wetter and wetter.. I begin to start dripping... As he slams it into her, he spanks me... I can feel how hard he is fucking her, he pushes against me with every thrust... He pulls out of her, takes off his condom and slowly slips his bulging hard cock into my tight vagina... I push up a little... now my breasts are hanging over her face... She pushes them together and begins to try to suck on both at the same time.... rubbing her hands all over me....My pussy is against hers, she can feel his cock going in me....and out... We both begin to moan as he started fingering her at the same exact pace as he is fucking my tight little pussy...

 As we both get tight and explode all over him, he pulls out of me and starts motioning us to turn around... we both sit up and face him... just as he explodes all over her face and chest... "NO FAIR! I didnt get any".. I exclaimed... He giggles and tells me to lick it off her... I slam her down on the bed, where I begin to lick off the hot wet cum off her little nipples... During this time, he has started to clean off... the sight of my ass sticking up in the air and me licking off cum from her breast turned him on too much and he had to begin fucking my ass again... This time he said... it was all about us...

As soon as she was all cleaned up, I told him to lay down... I got back on it and started to  ride him.... I told her to sit on his face and face me.... which she did with delight... We began making out and feeling up on her other, while our pussies were being taken care of... Our breasts pushed against each others.... until we both came...........

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Living with a Sexual Condition

When I was in my late teens, I lost my virginity with someone around my age and someone I knew I loved and cared about very much. Its not an experience I regret. It was a magical time for me. I was young and in love. It was also something new and exciting.

I never had intercourse, let alone anything else inserted in me. I was always very shy with any type of insertion. It didnt matter what kind. I never performed masturbation on myself. I didnt understand how poking yourself felt good. To me, it hurt. I hated using tampons as well. All my girl friends would tease me for wearing pads. They would say how Tampons were so much better and how they could go swimming... but when I tried them, it felt as though someone was sticking an empty roll of toilet paper in me... or a sharpie. And I would only try to use the small pocket tampons. I never understood how women could use the cardboard ones, and do it so easily.

It was only after marriage and MANY sexual partners in life that I realized that I had an issue. I went and saw my Gynecologist to get my regular Pap Smear. Nothing extreme... just a normal check up. I dreaded these.... I knew each time it would be painful and I would cry. No other doctor ever said there was something  wrong with me... They would just tell me to relax, this time however...she stopped. She told me that she could not perform the rest of the exam... She said my body was not allowing it and that I would have to come back another time after I had time to calm my body down. I never had a doctor stop an exam before, even if I was in pain. They would go thru it, or make it super fast. She really did not want to hurt me, as a patient I respected that a lot.

She began to ask me questions, like, "Have you ever been raped or molested as a child"... of course the answer was no. "Have you ever had issues with you sexuality"... now... knowing I was bi-curious I told the doctor how I considered myself a bisexual... even though at the time I had never had any sexual experience with a girl. After a couple more questions she told me,

"I think you might have Vaginismus"

WHAT IS THAT????????

I had never heard about this in my life before.

"Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. The tightness is actually caused by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina. The woman does not directly control or 'will' the tightness to occur; it is an involuntary pelvic response. She may not even have any awareness that the muscle response is causing the tightness or penetration problem."

 http://www.vaginismus.com

When she explained this all to me, everything started to make sense. I enjoyed sex, I loved being sexual, but had a hard time during foreplay and "getting it in", so to speak. It would always hurt. Guys would be like... "let me eat you out to make you wet"... I always thought..."If I am dry now...what makes you think your mouth can do anything"

I always felt as though I was giving up my virginity every time I had sex...

When I finally started to watch the HBO show "True Blood", the character Jessica would always say how she was a reborn virgin every time... Her hymen would break and heal... Thats almost how I feel.

I know... a little corny, but this is how I feel....
It's been about 2 years now since I have found out. I started therapy...
Yes... Therapy for my "Virgine"!!!
I started with a Dilator, and then worked on techniques with my therapist to learn how to calm my body.  
I never knew how stiff I could get. Since then... I started also working with my significant other to become more comfortable with my body. If you have read the other posts, you can tell... Ive become very open.
In fact, exploring my sexuality has helped me a lot. Im more confident, I relax easier, and I am constantly stimulated when sharing my significant other. Maybe this is also why I enjoy sharing him. But no new sexual feelings came from this mind you. I always knew I was bi-curious.....


And No.. this is not a Disease... this is a condition...
Just like if you had a Knee Condition ...i.e. a joint condition...
Or if you had a skin condition...
It's not contagious and I encourage you to read more at the website above.
Especially as a woman.


I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject.

 

Some of my Favorite Positions

Am I Ready for an Open Relationship?

Since we had the threesome, it really let us know what we were honestly realistically comfortable with. I knew I was comfortable with him being with another woman... and this showed him how comfortable I was. What next presented itself was... was I comfortable with him being with another woman when I was not around. This I believed I was okay with, but really didnt know how I would feel once it happened.
One Morning he said he was invited over to a "new friend's" place to have an "afternoon delight". He kept asking if I was okay with it. I said yes... to make it kinkier I asked him to send me a photo if she allowed... something to tease me while I was at work and couldn't do anything about it. This was the biggest turn on for me... knowing he was first having fun in the middle of the day excited me. Then seeing a photo of him having fun really got me turned on. He later told me how tight she was and how it was nice having sex with a younger girl, who he could flip around easily. He said he really liked her young lips around his cock sucking up everything.

 Afterwards, he began chatting with her through texts and chats online. She even did a little strip show for him over the webcam one day, of which he enjoyed very much. He felt lucky to have a girl on the side and with me to be okay with it. But this did present an issue.... 

How much communication and outside the bedroom relationship should be allowed? I felt fine if I was there, but I didnt want him to turn a bedroom relationship into something with feelings on either parties part. There needed to be a line drawn. Before anything happened, I let him know this shouldnt be an everyday or every week thing. He shouldnt feel like he should be doing this every day. This way we can achieve our goals without any tension or feelings hurt. Because out of everything, we are a couple with the same goal... and in the end, it will be us. 

I enjoy having an open marriage with other women only. I would love to have an open marriage with another man as well down the line, but I do not think my significant other would be as open to that. He knows I am bisexual and is okay with sharing me with another woman, but bringing another man into the relationship is hard for him. He has so many rules. One being, no oral sex given to the male. This is hard for me, because this is what I enjoy doing the most. I would love to have a threesome with another man and my significant other but I know this will never happen. I am tempted to get a strap on... this way, one of my "girlfriends" can use it on me. Maybe if he sees me being fucked by another person while I give him head or something might intrigue him. HAHA... Women in general are so sneaky. I dont mean to be... he's stated he wants to be fair with me and one day have a threesome with another guy or a foursome... but I know he needs more time with that idea. I think this will just help in the long run.

But for now... I think I am okay with an open marriage, as long as I know he is only in it for the physical aspect of the relationship.

 

Our First Threesome

The first time Kara came over for the evening... she wore a small simple spring dress with flowers all over it. There were little straps....hardly anything to keep the dress up honestly. You could tell she was not wearing a bra, her tits moving so easily under the dress. It just made me want to grab them. I had been smoking a little pot, (we live in la people) so I was a bit more loose than my significant other was. I could tell he was nervous and wouldnt start. He excused himself to the restroom for a moment. While he was away...it got a bit quiet. I turned and looked at Kara and said, "So... can I kiss you?". She said yes and I proceeded to move over to her on the couch. I started to kiss her, our teeth touched. It was odd kissing another person so passionately, but I liked it a lot. I straddled my legs and got on top of her. She pulled down my shirt so my breasts were exposed and just sitting out for view. At this point, my guy came out of the restroom. Im assuming his eyes got big. He came over and sat across from us, I could see him touching himself down there. We looked at him and grabbed him. He began kissing her as I pulled down her dress and began licking and sucking on her huge tits. Her huge tits made my normal size ones look like As. My 38Cs didnt stand a chance.

 After kissing for a minute or two and both of us enjoying her big breasts... I asked her if she wanted to go to the bedroom, to which she said yes. I walked in there, with no top on, her dress was around her waist. As soon as I sat down on the california king bed, she started pulling clothes off me and eating me out. I started to squirm as she tried to hold me down. "You're a squirmy one,aren't you?" and then giggled. I was never a big fan of getting eaten out, but I knew I might have to get used to this once I got into this lifestyle. But as I began to relax... I noticed how much I was really actually liking it. As her tongue pushed against my clit and rubbed against my lips I realized this whole time I had just been waiting for a girl to do it right....

My guy enjoyed watching us from behind. He went to go get a condom and put it on... Kara, pushed me back up further on the bed and kept eating me out as my guy came up from behind her and slid his throbbing hard cock in her wet little pussy. I felt her moan into my pussy... the vibrations were amazing. I looked up and saw him looking at me... We both smiled, acknowledging how we were both enjoying ourselves. I told him to give it to her good. Her moans were only louder and louder... I even at one point told her she was being too loud and how i didnt want my neighbors to hear. After a minute or two more of her eating my wet little pussy, I got up and let them enjoy each other. She ended up laying  down on her back and then I got on top of her and started to grab and suck on her. He came up from behind us and started to fuck me from behind... I started to drip all over Kara's little pussy... He took his cock out of me and strapped on a condom and shoved his cock into her pussy who was craving it this whole time. At this point I took a break to go clean up. I also wanted to give him a moment to fuck another woman without me being there. I wanted to walk in on him going nuts on a pussy... I was kinda hoping to walk in on a 69 or something..but he was laying on top of her sweating and moving that cock slowly in and out of her.  Enjoying every inch. I laid down on the bed and began masturbating beside her, while watching him... She began kissing me while he grabbed both of our tits... At this point... I began cumming....When they found this out, she flipped me over and told me to get on top of him. I put his cock in me and we started to move up and down. During this time, she was eating out my pussy at the same time. I looked down at him and mouthed "This is so fucking amazing'. And I felt like all I was doing was cumming...........While she was doing this, his hands were working like magic on her pussy. She creamed alllllll over his hand. There was just so much... I am still waiting to see her squirt... hehehhee

The Conversation and Meeting Our 1st.

I wanted to sit my significant other down and explain to him, that as much fun as the flirty teasing conversations about a threesome were during sex, it was just a tease. We hadn't been seriously looking for another girl to experience this with. I really wanted to either pick up a girl and bring her home for a night of fun, or I wanted him to pick up a girl. Easier Said than Done. His main concerns have always been with me. He wanted to make sure it was me wanting this. He wanted to make sure I was comfortable with this... I always appreciated this, which made it easier for me to be more open with him and know he wouldnt take advantage of the situation.

Being that we are in a committed relationship, it is hard to find a girl who would be interested in this. Also, if I was a single girl who wanted to join in, I can understand a bit of hesitation. How do you know these people are normal etc...? But at the same time, it wasn't like I was going to go ask one of my girl friends. "Umm... so... Im bi and wanting a threesome, want to join?" HAHA, doesn't work that way. One night I tried going to a Lesbian Club with my significant other. We had a couple drinks but thats all that pretty much happened. All the girls in the club were there with friends...or meeting people. If I was a lesbian in that bar I most likely would have made a joke about the couple in the corner looking for a threesome. HAHA!
After a little bit we decided the best way to find people who are looking for what we are, would be to look online. People are more open ( as you can tell ) to open up online without the feeling of rejection.
We decided to go ahead and spend the time and money, as other do on E-Harmony and other sites like that, to find a "sexual friend" thru some websites ( which I will not give here ). After a month of emailing people, we almost gave up, and then...all of a sudden we were swamped with emails from single girls in our area looking for a good time. Granted most were over weight and we were not interested, but it was nice to finally get some feed back.
We began talking to a girl named Kara for about a week. We went over everything. I kept asking her questions of what her likes and dislikes were, if she was into anal, if she had a car, if she could travel to us, if she felt comfortable in us hosting etc. Kara seemed to be interested in me a lot, and my significant other felt left out. When I addressed this with Kara, she stated she didnt want to talk to him as much because she didnt want me to develop jealousy. I stated to her that if and when she did flirt with him, I would get turned on. This was the first time I ever told another girl that she turned me on, to which she got excited from.
I also discussed with Kara that this would be the first time I was sexual with another woman. I had made out with tons of girls and always used alcohol as an excuse to kiss my girlfriends back home. When I moved to LA I made it a point to make sure everyone knew I was BI-curious ( since i hadnt had sex with a girl yet ). I was tired of keeping that part of me in. So when Kara would talk about wanting to suck on my tits, it was a new exciting experience. And one I was getting used to fast. I was excited to see how things would start and how much she might like me........
When we all finally decided to meet, we used Starbucks as our meet place. I thought it would be a better idea since its so public in general... and no one questions a group of friends having a cup of coffee...hehehe...
I sat there at the table, my significant other sitting across from me, about to meet another girl to be sexual with. I got a little nervous, but so excited to finally have this all happen. Kara walked from around the corner.. She was tall (6ft), mixed(blk&white), and so adorable in the spring summer dress she was wearing. Something to get out of easily it looked like. She went straight inside for a coffee, as my guy and I sat there deciding if we were both comfortable still. And then she came and sat with us where we began talking and getting to know each other. We found out she had done this before with another couple. This made us both very comfortable... just knowing one of us would be more experienced with this...After talking for a bit, we all decided it was time to go. We told her we would call her after we had talked privately, which I think is the best decision. You can go back and really decide if this is what you want to do, instead of jumping into something you are not ready for.

Am I a female Cuckold?

My body reacts to the sight of another woman... and I fantasize about watching a woman fuck my guy. I want to see her enjoy him. And I especially want to see him enjoy himself. I dont even want to have attention on myself... I want to watch him go to town on a girl and just use her like a little toy. The thought of this makes my pussy get so wet..even while I write this. I wouldn't mind sitting on the bed next to them masturbating. I dont have to be involved in a threesome to enjoy this. The Girl never has to touch me or kiss me. I just love watching... BUT if a threesome were to present itself..I would be on board. But.. thats another post. ;-)

I love watching his huge cock (XXL Magnums are too small btw) pounding in another women's pussy...seeing her creamy and wet from him. Moaning and grabbing on to him. I want to watch a girl ride and grind on him. I have still yet to see him explode in a nice ass... but I am waiting for that day. I know he will enjoy a nice tight ass to cum into... and I cant wait to be there to lick it all up for him.

All I want to do is watch him basically cheat on me with other women... that and go off and do it while I am at home cleaning, cooking dinner, or at work. Just because he decided to be faithful to me, doesn't mean he should have to stop "spreading his seed". I hate the idea of my guy at home wacking off when he could be out there fucking a young hot piece of ass...., 

Now... the question is, does this make me a Cuckold. Usually a cuckold is a man whose wife cheats on him behind his back, while he knows about it. Its more about humiliation, but for me its not about humiliation. but Still... does this make me a female cuckold? What are terms for women like me?

What do you call a woman who likes watching her man fuck other women in their bed that they share?

What do you call that? I would say it might be called a "Open Relationship'... but I dont sleep with other men at all... not saying I dont want to, I am just not there yet. I am still only comfortable with other women. If you have any comments, I would love to hear them.

My Sexual Needs.....Questioned

I am in my late 20s,married, and craving more sexually. Its not that my significant other does not satisfy me...that's not the case at all. I always knew I was attracted to women as much as men, but knew I was more sexually interested in men.What can I say... a cock, is a cock, is a cock. No Toy will satisfy me a way a man does. But I still craved a touch of a women.

 I was/am in a committed relationship, so it wasn't like I was going to up and leave and find a new lover. And my feelings did not end sexually with just wanting to be with another woman. I wanted to experience my significant other, with another woman. At first I didnt know if this meant I only wanted to have a threesome. I thought about it for a long time, and talked about it openly with my significant other. I wanted to make sure if he felt the same way I did. When I told him, he was very intrigued by the idea. I wanted him to know that he would not feel left out at all. His first concern was if I wanted this for him...or myself. For the longest time I really think he thought I was only doing it for him. He couldn't believe or understand how I was okay with sharing him with another woman.

I really didnt think about Jealousy at all. I actually got turned on by the idea of him with another woman. Either being there watching, participating, or hearing about it later. I really had to question, was it that I wanted a hook up once with another female for a one or two time threesome action... or was it that I wanted us to commit ourselves to an open relationship. We decided to talk about it for another year. In that year we talked about many ideas, reasons not to do it, what exactly both of us wanted... fantasies etc. 

I hope in this Blog, I am able to get more information and experiences from others.

Share my ongoing bisexual relationship ...

I want to know the issues and problems you felt going into an open relationship...

threesomes, foursomes, orgies...etc.

And I hope along the way I can help you to with some insight to what is going on with us and our wonderful experiences with women